Push or Pull or Do Whatever the Shit You Want to Open the Door

 

I was sitting outside this coffee shop and reading something. I noticed the door and it said, “push for the best coffee.” So if I pull and open the door, I won’t get their best coffee? They would give me a bad coffee or something? I guess someone monitors how the customers are entering inside so that they would make best or bad coffee. May be they have CCTV camera to track these things. I noticed this guy, who works there, going in and out of the coffee shop frequently for some time. And he was not following the instruction. Either he hated his job or he didn’t give a fuck about the way the door opens or the instruction or he hated coffee. Some time later, I saw his buddy coming out of the shop and he wasn’t following the instruction either. I guess they both hated their jobs or didn’t give a fuck about the damn door, and I guess that’s why they were buddies. That was quite an instruction, though. What if a customer pull the door to open it and he/she would have to leave because he/she wouldn’t want a bad coffee. See, this can even make them go out of business. I saw two men approached the coffee shop and one of them pulled the door open, but the other guy stopped him and pushed it! I guess he badly wanted the best coffee. I wanted to sit there and take a statistic of how people enter the coffee shop but I got bored after a while and decided to write this.

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I am sure you have faced this push/pull dilemma. It’s everywhere — doors of restaurants, coffee shops, malls. Mostly I do the opposite of what it says. it’s not that I am illiterate or anything. it’s cleverly placed so that I couldn’t ignore it. I have to push/or pull to open the damn door. I know what push and pull means. But when I see this, I would be in a dilemma. What is it? Should I push when it says pull or should I push when it says pull. What would happen if I push instead of pull? Does the door break? Or they will might get offended or something? What is it? All these things would start growing my mind. And I stand there wondering what to do. Should I push or pull? I start sweating. My hands starts shivering, and my heart beats faster as if it wants to escape to avoid the embarrassment I am going to get. I know I need to push when I see push (Duh!). But I just can’t. I think of pull when I see push and I think I should pull when I see push. Fuck. It’s difficult than solving a physics problem (yes. I find it difficult to solve a difficult physics problem).

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I get over this by doing a mental exercise. I tell myself that push means push, and pull means pull. And sometimes I even push/pull a hypothetical door in front of me (I try to make it subtle, though). Besides making me look like a complete (or partial) idiot, it helps me to do the right thing ( 9 out of 10 times!).

After I enter inside, I wonder why I see this everywhere — Why it makes my life difficult. I want to see something like, “Do whatever you want to open the damn door”. Or something plain, like, ” just open the fucking door” or if they completely leave this door-opening-instruction, I would be happy, too.

But, yeah, next time, I am going to just open the damn door in whatever way I want.

P.S. This post has nothing to do with the coffee shop or the people who works there.

Stop Waiting for Motivation

If this is how your story goes, you may read this article (if it’s not, you may read this if you are bored or something).

You don’t like reading, but you just want to know what this post is about, then you may skip the next four paragraphs.

So you want to be something other than your mainstream job wants you to be — a painter/writer/photographer/or-whatever-that’s-in-your head, perhaps. You think it’s cool to do such things because you felt immense pleasure in doing such things that your mainstream job fails to give you. You would see that others call you a genius or something at what you do. And, finally,  you call it your “passion”. You would think that pursuing your passion is great and, it would give you unlimited happiness for the rest of your life. You think about going into your passion.

Because you are going into it your passion full time, you need to do it every day or to spend more time for it. You may even do that for the first few days or something, but you find it difficult to be consistent. But it’s not just happening. You may be good at those things, but you know that you are not awesome at it. But, you couldn’t just do those things. You convince yourself that your are out of motivation. So you wait for motivation to strike at the back of your head so that you can start doing those things and be awesome at it. Yes, sometimes you feel motivated and you do those things without stopping for hours. You feel good about it. But, it is transitory and you wait for another wave of motivation.

You search for tips, read blogs, talk to the best people in that area on how to feel motivated all the time. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it would take a long time. You get frustrated. You might even get this feeling that you are not “meant” to do those things, that you should be doing only your mainstream job. And when somebody asks you, you say that you are not motivated or you just don’t have enough time or energy for that after your work. You think that the iconic people in those areas are gifted or has magical powers to do such things.

Is this happening to you? It used to happen to me. But I didn’t like it, for I don’t believe in magical powers/gifted talent and all that. So I did some research and found out what made those people different than the rest of the people. I am going to tell you what it really is.

The difference between them and the rest of the people is their mental resilience. That is, they just do it no matter what their state of mind is. They don’t wait for motivation to do what they want to do . They just do it. Sure, you are like unstoppable when you ‘feel like doing it’, but that’s not it. It will not help you achieve anything significant. So what you must do to get good at something?

You have to keep doing it every day. Chuck the idea of motivation. I know it’s hard, but an idea is useless if it’s not working for you. Stop waiting for it, and develop a habit of doing it everyday. I agree that you will get motivated when you see others’ work. But it means that you can also do those things, it doesn’t tell you that you have to do it.
If you are thinking about going into your passion full time or want to get better at it, you have to do it even if you are bored Or not feeling like doing it. That’s the deal.

I write when I’m inspired, and I see to it that I’m inspired at nine o’clock every morning —  Peter De Vries


Move out of your comfort zone

You might have heard elsewhere that you have to move out of your comfort zone to achieve something or be productive. That is true. We love comfort zone (duh! That’s why it’s a comfort zone). And doing your mainstream job is moving out of comfort zone, and that’s why most people hate it. But, over time we are getting good at what we are doing, aren’t we? Some people even say that they are getting used to their work. Moving out of comfort zone and doing things help you to grow and improve yourself. And doing something when you feel motivated is like doing it in the comfort zone. Yes, moving out of comfort zone is frustrating. You would feel like your passion is as bad as your mainstream job is. Some of you might say that if you are getting frustrated at doing what you love to do, then there is no point in doing it. I bet such people don’t do anything significant. They just keep saying it until they die.

Comfort zone is where you can do things easily. There is no effort or boredom or frustration. It’s so easy for you, you would feel like your life is going smoothly. And that is okay for most people. They would argue that they should be in comfort zone because they had been working all day or all week. For people who want to do something other than their regular work, motivation stands just outside the comfort zone and taunts them. But, you just want it to come inside your comfort zone.

So the idea is to go out of the comfort zone and just do it until it becomes your comfort zone. Just keeping doing it until it becomes so easy for you. Expand your comfort zone territory until it’ so effortless.

 

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Move out
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And expand your comfort zone

 

  • If you want to be a writer and publish a book, don’t wait for motivation. Just start writing. Develop a habit of writing every day. You may feel like nothing is coming out, but you just write. Trust me, anyone can be a writer if they have something to say. The only prerequisite is that they should think clearly.
  • If you want to be a painter, you just paint. The medium doesn’t matter. Whatever, you can get your hands on at that moment, take it and just do it. Draw every day. Follow a tutorial or just paint something random. If you are following a tutorial, repeat it until it’s too easy for you.
  • If you want to be a photographer, don’t just sit in front of computer and look at the works of others. Just go out and do it. Nothing else will help you to become a good photographer.

Thus, if you want to create something significant (write a book, make awesome paintings, make good photographs) develop a habit of doing it every day instead of waiting for inspiration. Do it when you don’t feel like doing it.